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SUMMARY
Got this great question from one of my email subscribers recently, where I was asked by her how to deal with a narcissist in her family … more specifically her mother.
And it wasn’t the only email I got on how to deal with narcissistic people in your personal and/or professional life … so decided to shoot this video for you … and this full blog post here.
First of, I like to walk the walk rather talking the talk without any background information, research and personal experience…
And I want to be totally transparent with you here: I was “lucky” to not suffer from people exactly like that … so people I’d call “narcissist.”
But I’ve been through similar situations, where I felt completely helpless and out of control.
I’ve struggled through a deep depression resulted from terrible bullying back in high school … feeling frustrated, empty and suicidal … and, fortunately, I persevered (and you know that’s NOT easy!) and learnt some things along the way that I want to share with you here (since it will help you learn how to deal with a narcissist because it’s the same process.)
Second, I invite you to watch the full video because I give more advice in there that I can possibly write down here (or read the full transcript of the video down below.)
Third, here some key takeaways of this week’s video but, as I said before, I suggest you watch the video in its full entity to get the full value out of this The Highly Sensitive Journey episode.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- We’re all narcissists to a certain degree, because we simply can’t be only one-sided. There’s always an opposite.
- Here, however, we’re talking about people who do their best to constantly put you down, make you feel bad, need to be the center of attention all the time.
- Oftentimes, this is based on two primary fears. (a) The fear of you becoming somehow “bigger” than them (i.e. they don’t realize that everybody is merely “different”; no one is better or worse). So they lack perspective. And (b) that they’re left behind and live alone, which is a possible consequence of (a).
- A real consequence, then, is that there’s no real communication whatsoever. Either the topic is always about them OR you got to always talk in their terms, show them “what’s in it for them”, which is very exhausting and unfulfilling.
- Best advice: Remove them (if that’s possible) or dramatically limit your time to them (e.g. if narcissist is a family member). Watch the video for more advice.
NOTE: You’re not here to “fix” them, unless you’re a professional and they seek your help.
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How To Deal With A Narcissist (In Your Life)
