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SUMMARY
We all want to have more fulfillment, meaning and happiness in our lives—but how?
I know for sure that I struggled BIG TIME finding the answer to the “how” in my own life.
Years ago, I did everything I possibly could trying to turn my life around. I was miserable, frustrated, felt completely empty inside—that was my daily reality.
However, I felt there had to be more to life. A better quality of LIVING.
Luckily, after a LOT of effort and perseverance, I came across some very powerful things. (That are surprisingly simple and easy to implement.)
For me, however, it took a one-year stay in Sydney, Australia (far away from home) to successfully make this transition from sadness to happiness.
If you, right now, still feel like I felt years ago … know this:
You don’t need to go through this any longer.
In fact, I don’t want you to go through that any longer.
Thus, I created this video blog post and published it for free. (I could have created a whole Happiness Course, or whatever I’d called it, and sell it for thousands of euros. But I believe you deserve to get the information right here and right now, because you’ve struggled far too long already.)
Don’t be surprised that the actionable content I’m gonna share with you here seems pretty basic.
But what’s “pretty basic” isn’t what most people do. Otherwise, more people would be happier.
So let’s get started.
First off, let’s take a look at the key takeaways of this week’s episode:
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
1.) This Is A General Guide.
If you need help get over childhood trauma or similar experiences, please seek someone out whose profession it is to get you through all of this.
2.) ONE Secret:
You got to see the truth. Here it is: All things are created equally—there’s no positive without a negative, and vica versa. See, everything is neutral, you’re the one who’s (unconsciously) judging.
3.) Take A Conscious Approach
We also got to choose emotions consciously that favor us. In short, the POSITIVE and EMPOWERING emotions. As a consequence, you start making better decisions; you also act in a more authentic way because you live more consciously. (You see this here is not only about “how to be happy”, it’s really about the pursuit of happiness—a conscious way of living.)
4.) It Doesn’t Happen Overnight
Make a daily commitment to live consciously, choose empowering emotions and be grateful. That’s it. Don’t think you can change your behavior immediately. It’s habitual. Please, learn from my mistakes. Start small, be consistent.
Little tip here: Track what you want to change, otherwise nothing will ever change—we are creatures of habit (here: be more present and conscious of your thoughts, feelings and emotions during the day).
5.) LOVE + GRATITUDE Are The Most Powerful Forces
Thus, be grateful for every single thing, be it in the past, present, or future. Remember that ALL things are neutral; they all have a positive AND negative side! Because of that, focus on the positive things, and you’ll experience more positivity in your life (where focus goes energy flows).
6.) NO Wishful Thinking Here
Two words are sufficient: Take. Action.
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The Pursuit Of Happiness — How To Be Happy
Full Transcript
The Pursuit Of Happiness — How To Be Happy
Ok, we’re all on the pursuit of happiness. We all want to have MORE fulfillment in our lives, we all want to live a happier life in general.
We just don’t want to feel all the sadness and frustration and emptiness on a consistent basis.
But.
I don’t want to say WE FAIL to “just” be happy, because I’m the last guy who talking about “Hey, yeah just be happy, just have fun, yeah!” (and whatever) … and you had a traumatic experience in your life (or whatever).
Eh, by the way, if you did and you’re currently STILL in a situation where you say like “Hey, I’m really depressed” … I highly recommend you think about psychotherapy or whatever else … go to a real medical expert or health expert—someone whose profession it is to get you through all of this.
What I’m offering here is just a general guide to be more happy, and …
Well, what I found is so many things in life actually …
… It DOESN’T matter if it’s happiness, success, more fulfilling relationships, or personal freedom, or whatever …
ALL these things have ONE thing in common.
Just ONE.
ONE secret.
And, well, you wanna know what this “secret” is?
It’s actually so basic. And it just means that …
…you gotta see the truth.
And, well, WITHOUT sounding too religious or philosophical here … just one easy step.
Just one easy step.
And it is to see that ALL THINGS ARE CREATED EQUALLY—ALL THINGS ARE EQUAL.
What does it mean?
Well, if you just look at what happens … doesn’t matter what happens.
Let’s picture one situation.
You’re in a situation … and you get humiliated by other people.
Yeah, you’re in a group of people and they all make fun of you … and you feel like, “Hey they’re all just making fun of me” (and whatever).
Of course, we now say “Oh, that’s such a BAD situation. Oh, that’s such a frustrating … ah, that’s humiliating!”
Yeah?!
But. Being. Just. Honest.
It’s neutral.
It is just a situation:
There’s a group of people, each person is different. Of course, each people is unique. And, yeah, they just say certain things to one person. And they use emotions, and logic, and stuff like this in order to .. yeah … create this event.
Right now, just that you don’t get me wrong here …
That we don’t get off course …
…I’m NOT talking anything about “Yeah, everything is just fine, you just gotta take it, whatever, and take the emotion out of it…”
No.
That’s not why I’m here, and that’s not what we’re after.
What we’re after is to just take a realistic approach to YOUR LIFE and to every single situation you’re facing.
Look.
In this situation, of course, it makes sense to say “Hey, that’s a really terrible situation. I never want to experience this kind of situation ever again. And, therefore, I’m now taking charge of my life.”
Yeah, I’m really building my self-confidence, my self-esteem, stuff like this.
At least, that was what I did … back in my past, there were or there was a certain event … there were different events. They were similar like this. But there was one major event where I had really—in a group of 30 people—I had 29 people, nah maybe not 29 but let’s say 26 people AGAINST ME, two neutral [persons] who were on my side a bit…
Matter of fact, I felt completely LOST, completely on my own … that I was NOT in charge of the situation, at all.
And then it is, of course, great when you see “Hey, that’s a bad situation, I really have to change it, I really have to change my life, myself, SO I have to work on myself.”
Not like, “I have to now toughen up.” No.
Just see that “Hey, I never want to surround myself with people of this kind of calibre ANYMORE, ANY LONGER. My life is PRECIOUS, my time is PRECIOUS—I’m not doing this any longer.”
And when you do this, and you apply “Ok, everything is neutral—every situation.” …
…Then, there’s this second, nah, secret … BUT then you get the conclusion that “Ok, I’m in charge of my life. I can choose the emotions.”
And that’s why, a while ago, I posted a quote on Facebook [second quote below this transcript; the one with the red background.]
It was a quite long quote, but to brake it down for you; if you haven’t seen it … it is and it was something about that—as I said before—ALL things are created equally, ALL things are equal…
…But you are the one, who attaches the emotion to it.
Normally, it is just neutral. But you choose the emotion.
So … just choose … decide to take an empowering, positive emotion into it.
And, well, of course, sometimes it’s not easy … but then, especially, in these situations you really got to dig deep and see, “Hey, where’s the positive thing?”
And, this leads us to THE NEXT STEPS:
Look, once you figure out “Ok, every single situation, every single event in my life … I’m in charge, I can choose the emotion … I’m REALLY in control of it.”
Because when you choose empowering emotions to it and it happens in the present moment—it happens RIGHT NOW—you really put the positive emotion into it, the empowering one … you get the encouragement, the motivation from within.
Suddenly, you show up in a different way.
Suddenly, you are stepping up for yourself. You standing up for yourself.
You’re acting boldly.
And when you do this, it is in an authentic way.
Because you say “Hey, yo, you know what? Normally it’s a neutral event right now, I choose the empowering emotion NOT the disempowering one—I’m now boldly taking action.”
And, of course, that doesn’t happen over time eh sorry that doesn’t happen over night, it happens over time.
So, don’t put any kind of weird pressure on yourself.
Like, you say “Next time, I really have to get completely self-confident!!”
That’s not possible.
But it is really a DAILY COMMITMENT to now from every single day forward, like you’re watching this video or listening to it RIGHT NOW…
So make a decision TODAY, right now, now in this moment, make a decision to say:
“Hey, I’m now choosing empowering emotions AND to every single thing.”
And that’s the same with GRATITUDE. Yeah?!
Actually, just today, I was thinking about it:
“What’s the MOST powerful force in the universe? (In the whole world around us)
And, if you asked a lot of people, many of them or I think the majority says:
“Love.”
And I think it’s great.
I never thought in this way YEARS AGO. Actually, I never really thought about self development, personal development stuff, AT ALL.
I was just thinking, “Hey, I can’t do anything about my life.”
I didn’t have the concepts and didn’t took the actual steps I’m now giving you … that just some basic stuff about choosing empowering emotions … I was SO unconscious, SO unaware … that I was just reacting and, you know, as you really decide to take the empowering emotions …
…You act PRO-ACTIVELY.
You’re going that step forward.
Not: “Ok, they did that, they did that, I just react how I reacted all the time.”
Eh, yeah, but coming back now to LOVE.
I think IT IS a really powerful force in the universe.
Yeah, love can … can change so many things.
I mean if you are not confident enough, let’s say it this way, to …
…IF you have a dream inside of you … you really dream to achieve something, but you feel like “Hmm, I’m not confident enough.” or “I don’t really dare to step out of my comfort zone and really make it happen” …
…LOVE can make it happen ;-)
When you just feel like “Hey, I’m doing it for my family (or my country, or for the people I’m serving.)”
And then you grow and you go beyond your current self … and you step into that higher self.
Ok.
I don’t want to put too much info in that video here…
…Otherwise, it’s not actionable.
So, right now, just remember … as I’m repeating over and over again … CHOOSE THE EMPOWERING EMOTIONS IN THE PRESENT MOMENT TO ANY SITUATION THAT COMES TOWARDS YOU.
Or, if you come in contact with it, so not the situation comes to you but you step up.
For example, you open a conversation with someone … yeah, just choose empowering emotions.
If they look at you in a certain way where you normally feel like, “Ah, they are rude…”
Don’t think about it.
Just think about the positive aspects.
And you’ll see—once you choose that mental attitude of looking for the positive trait and for the positive sides—they magically show up.
It’s the same with the “negative” stuff. It’s like:
Where focus goes energy flows.”
It’s a great quote, I think. Don’t actually know who said it first, but it’s quotes so many times, and it’s old but gold.
And once you shift that focus from negative to positive, everything changes suddenly.
You see new opportunities, you see new things.
But—now coming back to what I said about LOVE— …
…Love is great. But what I think is maybe EVEN MORE powerful …
(I don’t know how you can measure it but) For me it was:
Experiencing gratitude—and I mean REAL GRATITUDE.
Once you’re really grateful of anything that has happened in your past…
For anything to be grateful…
Doesn’t matter if it was a traumatic situation…
If you see it from a perspective like “Hey, without that event I wouldn’t be where I am right now. I wouldn’t have learned from that mistake.”
If it was something you messed up? You messed up.
You can’t do anything about it now.
So, the best thing you can do is also to be grateful for it … and gratitude is a pro-active step in order to choose positive emotions and empowering emotions towards something.
And it doesn’t matter if it’s in the past or if it’s now in the present, if you just say:
“Awww, I’m SO grateful for the clothes I wear.” or “I’m SO grateful for the person I’ve become.” or “I’m SO grateful for being highly sensitive (or to be not highly sensitive—if you’re not highly sensitive, of course).”
…To just really acknowledge things in your life you DO, you HAVE, you BE (or you are)… and, …
And then also for the future, so that you see:
“Awww, yeah, I’m really grateful for what’s coming next! I don’t know what happens, but I’m SO grateful that everything will turn out fine.”
And, don’t get me wrong on this here.
I’m not talking about Positive Thinking AND not Taking Action… yeah, about this “wishful thinking,” The Secret stuff …
…If you’ve ever watched it:
I think it’s a great movie but there’s one thing that’s missing and that’s TAKING ACION.
Well, and you know what?
Without taking action, nothing happens.
To me it’s so funny; and actually it’s also sad, but I mean funny because that’s also an empowering emotion, sometimes you just have to laugh about something … when you mess up, just laugh about it.
It’s really great, it’s really powerful. Just use it. Try it out.
When you mess up, really laugh about it.
So, what I mean with “The Secret”, so the movie, is…
…In the movie there’s one scene, and if you have watched it you know what I mean.
It is where there is a man, eh or … where they are just thinking about, “Oh yeah I’m just having positive thoughts…” and then they—sorry, negative thoughts—and then they check their mail and they always get a really bad mail with a LOT of bills (and whatever). And then they say like, “Yeah, and then I changed my back account … I just change the balance in there [on the statement]” … from debt to being completely rich, and “Then, (in so and so many weeks) suddenly, everything [changed] … and I’m now looking in my mail and there’s more and more stuff [abundance] coming in.”
Yeah, that’s possible.
But just when [if] you think positively here [point with finger to my mind], you choose empowering emotions to anything, you’re grateful, BUT YOU ALSO TAKE ACTION UPON THE NEW OPPORTUNITIES YOU HAVE!
Otherwise…
It’s just mind-blowing for me how people actually … I’m not joking, I heard it from Jack Canfield, the author of the Chicken Soup For The Soul [series] and also some other great books out there … and he said that there’re STILL nowadays people who are sitting at home, they write a description about whatever they want in their lives … and they’re always praying, they always wish, they always write their gratitude … or whatever.
But they NEVER take action.
They just sit at home, or they just do the job that will NEVER get them where they need to be.
And that’s the last thing I’m talking about.
Making a conclusion now here, because I think it was kind of good content…
Because that’s—as you know—right from a few episode back I’m now trying to, nah not trying, I’m really doing these videos WITHOUT any notes.
In front of this camera, there are NO notes, at all.
And when I’m doing the summary… I ACTUALLY do them afterwards.
I’m doing complete freestyle here.
So, hope you appreciate this BUT—even more importantly—I hope the content was really sticky and I was repetitive but not too much annoying…
..If it was give me a thumbs down, I’m absolutely okay with that. I have no problems, because I actually think it’s great to improve and to also see positive AND negative feedback.
Also comment below this video if you have ANY, yeah, if you want to “Speak Your Mind.”
Doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative … you know it’s all neutral, it’s just how you take it.
It’s the same with criticism.
By the way, I think I actually should do a video about it and also about criticism …
…and show you how you can really use “negative” feedback or different kinds of feedback … how they can really serve you.
Because I also know that it’s a huge, or for me it was a HUGE PROBLEM.
But also when I nowadays just talk with people… or when I’m looking through forums I see this ALL THE TIME.
And it is the same what I said here—and, now, the conclusion:
Choose empowering emotions, just choose the positive ones, the empowering ones.
You are in charge. You are in control.
Like this? Please share it with your friends so that they, too, can live a happier life and start amplifying love and gratitude today. –Mario
